Dating trap

Now that ‘online dating’ is no longer secretive or taboo, it’s officially become a day-to-day part of our lives, whether you or your friends are on Tinder, Raya, JSwipe or just sliding in someone’s DM’s.

But the term ‘online dating’ already feels so dated; it’s not really relevant for our generation.

Communicating through lightening fast messages, instant chat and winks you will be chatting easily and quickly in no time.

But now that cuffing season is officially over and spring has sprung, it’s a good time to establish some ground rules, and air out some basic do’s and don’ts. If they’re looking to get laid, they put out a thirst trap, out come the dog-filter Snapchats, the subtly sexual ‘mood’ posts and late-night ‘me rn’ selfies. Wait too long and the match loses the initial surprise and energy.

I asked a bunch of men and women, straight and gay, some questions about how they behave when dating online. Overall, men didn’t seem to care what they post, their profile pics or what women put, when they’re on dating apps they’re simply “on safari”. There’s also an attraction to assertiveness.” Said one of the guys I asked. Other than finding out who each other’s mutual friends are and where their aunt went on holiday last year.

Whatever the story is in your head, you’re not dealing with the truth here. Don’t replicate dating but without the sex or kissing. Anything you do that hints at still being girlfriends, like casually holding hands while out or putting your hand on her leg while at the movies, is a no-no.

That says you’re confused and you’re going to end up in a lot of arguments because of your behavior.